Couple weeks ago on our way to beautiful Napa Valley we were listening an absolutely unbelievable episode on radio station about gay couple from Israel that came across so many problems before they become a parents.
With both surrogacy and adoption prohibited for gays in Israel, many gays in the late 1990s started to adopt children from foreign countries: Guatemala, Russia, Ukraine, and other Eastern European countries. But in recent years, many of these countries have also prohibited gay couples from adopting.
Even those who can afford surrogacy are agitating for domestic rights, because the Israeli government is making it increasingly difficult for couples who use overseas surrogates to prove parenthood when the children are brought back to Israel, requiring blood tests and extensive paperwork as well.
The Israeli government also refuses to recognize the non-biological parent of children born through surrogacies overseas (even if they are listed on the foreign birth certificate), forcing that parent to go through an onerous adoption process when they return to Israel.
The most common destination for Israelis seeking surrogates – India.
Others are hiring Nepalese women to trek across the border to India to receive IVF treatments and then return to Nepal for birth.
For many future parents IVF story and whole conception process almost the same with some variations. You need one egg, one sperm and as a result – a baby or multiples. The story was different because for Tal and Amir ( the heroes of the story) conception takes on a new form – it’s the sperm and the egg, plus: two wombs, four countries, and lots of money.
As we follow them on their journey, an earth shaking revelation shifts our focus from them, to the surrogate mothers. How much money this women from very poor countries makes to care a child in a womb and guesses how much agencies makes for the whole IVF and adoption process.
The journey is further complicated by the terrible earthquake that struck Nepal during the weeks that Tal and Amir were living there, learning to care for their infants. Here’s how it all went down.